First Night: Dealing With the Pressure of Being a Virgin!

Having sex on the first night with your husband should not be something you should have to do to justify society norms. read of for the best and simplest way to deal with FIRST NIGHT JITTERS!


No matter how advanced we get, having sex for the first time with anyone is fraught with tensions! You might have know your man for a long time or you might have just met him twice before the wedding (hey, don't laugh; it does happen in almost all arranged marriages!) But undressing and showing your private naughty areas in front of a total stranger is really, really uncomfortable and especially more so if you are a virgin!

Dealing with the pressure to have sex- Well, no one can tell you what to do in the privacy of your bedroom! Several religions have a functions which is held after the wedding itself and hosted by the grooms side to signify that the marriage has been consummated! But it's not necessary to follow traditions for the sake of it! A nasty first encounter can sour you for life, so take it easy! It's perfectly acceptable to have sex on the third or fourth day after your marriage.

Communicate your feeling to your spouse BEFORE the wedding night - He might have expectations about having sex on the first night! So find some quiet time where you can discuss your feelings with your soon-to-be-spouse. This way he is aware of your feelings and nervousness and he won't pressure you to consummate the marriage. More often than not, your man may be equally uncomfortable about the process! The pressure works both ways, you know!

Plan your wedding night!- You can spend thousands of hours making your wedding the best it is but spend some time with your to-be-spouse about what each of you are expecting out of the first night together. Get to know each other likes, dislikes, fantasies and expectations. This will also let down barriers as you discuss intimate ideas with each other.

The primary thought which resounds in almost every bride's head is, " Oh I'm so excited but I so wish a FIRST NIGHT was not mandatory and I don't want to be the hymen-breaking-blood-on-the-wedding-sheets blushing bride; at least not until I get to know him a little better!" Your wedding night is just the day that you start being husband and wife and it's going to be a life long process! So relax! Enjoy the ride with your husband! Sex is something which you have a lifetime together to explore and it just gets better with practice!